Re: NEED ADVICE ABOUT TEEN SON
I can't be much help, I'm sure. But I have raised 4 children. I remember when I had 3 teens under my roof at the same time. But...we didn't have computers to deal with at that time.
I do know that IF WE HAD had computers, I would have known what my teens were doing on the thing and what sites they were involved in. I'm just that kind of mom. I think it a bad idea to put a computer in a kid's room and allow them to just surf anywhere they wish for as long as they wish.
I did monitor what games mine played. One biggie back then was 'Dungeons and Dragons.' You don't hear much about it now, but it was a role playing game and from what I heard, young people could get seriously involved in it and it could impact their behavior. Mine were not allowed to get that game.
I do think as his PARENT, you have the right, the authority and that you SHOULD now and then go and see what he's doing on the world wide web. My opinion is that you should tell him,
"When I was off work the other day, I thought I would clear up your room a bit. I noticed you'd had left your computer up and running. As a Dad I thought to look around a bit on your computer and what I found disturbed me.
I saw a number of note files that had allot of cussing (Profanity) at about everything and everyone including your Mother and I. The letters were filled by hatred and anger. Now, I'd like you to tell me what's going on."
And, I'd let him know that I intend to check more often. That things like that are certainly not pleasing for a Dad to see, much less his Heavenly Father!
I say all this because you are the parent. He is the child. And nowadays, we have to stomp the devil when he tries to carry off our children and take them into captivity.
I used to pray out loud, "Devil, keep your hands off my children. You touch them in any way, and you are tresspassing and I call upon my heavenly father to deal with you. I am a Christian, and covered by the blood of Christ Jesus and you have no right to my children. This is my home and it is dedicated to my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, and its in his name that I'm telling you to leave my children alone."
Some may consider me too old fashioned, but I tell you, that worked for me. Main thing is, you ARE the parent and he IS still a child. In your care. You are responsible.
My favorite scripture: Malachi 3:16
"Then they that feared the LORD spake often one to another: and the LORD hearkened, and heard it, and a book of remembrance was written before him for them that feared the LORD, and that thought upon his name!" (Every time we speak of the Lord, or even THINK of him--its written down in a book of remembrance!)