Linda, I agree with Dani here. 13 is a key time in your life to explore and ask God to heal the memories of that period of time in your life. It is also the time in which we pass from childhood to adolesence so a time of vulnerability. It has been key to me especially since I experienced abuse at that time from my step father. My dad died when I was only 9. Dealing with it and how it effects me is ongoing. The main thing that helped me over the years and has helped me to keep slipping back into addictions is to remember that God is my Father and that he loves me as a very good Father does. For me it is all about trust but I don't mean that in a simplistic way. It is an ongoing thing and a discipline of sorts. Also reminding myself of His promises from the Word (even saying them over and over) helps..especially Jeremiah 29:11--" For I know the plans I have for you,Ē declares the Lord, ďplans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." But I still struggle and the hardest times are those when I am under stress.
Stress can't be avoided though especially if you are a student. (been there many times.) Exercise always helps me especially breathing in fresh air. When I was in grad school I got out and ran almost every day and that helped. Now I simply walk. And getting quiet times aways from others can be very good. To us extroverts though it can feel like running way and/or isolating and we have to tell ourselves it isn't that. Actually to me it has become more like refueling the tank.
I can relate even though I am over 70 and still relying on His Grace and strength as I meet anew the challenges of daily living as I know he takes our limitations and vulnerability into account. He gives us strength to overcome, to balance out, while the enemy wants us to return to bondage and tell ourselves we are too weak. Not so in Christ! We need to continue to put our faith, hope, and trust in our loving Father through the grace and mercy of Jesus Christ.
"The flowers appear on the earth,
the time of singing has come,
and the voice of the turtledove
is heard in our land ." SofS 2:12 (RSV)