My GROWN kids just told me that their aunt sexually abused them multiple times.

[Dizzytimes7]

I need advice. I forgave her (my sister) for the sexual abuse soon after I found out in March and have to constantly block out the images of her with my kids. Anger flairs up in me and I go repent and ask blessings for my sister so I can be in HIS will.

But, I can't talk to her or go to family get togethers where she is going. Is that wrong of me. Never have we talked about this yet. I want to so badly but don't have peace about it yet. I am confused and hurt still.

How does the Lord want me to handle this? Do I call her or write her or never talk about it? I have 4 other sisters that think I am a bad person to avoid this sister. They do not know all this.




Please give me advice if you feel led to do so. I am confuse. thanks

[Ta-An]

How old was your sister when this all happened?
and how many years ago was this?
Does she have children of her own?

[Dizzytimes7]

She did this in the 1980's to my children without me having a clue and I just found this out earlier this year when 2 of my kids went to therapy because of problems in their marriages etc.

Yes, she has kids the same ages and did involve them in the sexual abuse with my kids at the same time. It happened multiple times even at other people's houses besides her house.

Now she acts like she is the good christian lady around family but is nasty around non christians. She acts like a demon is in her and laughs or smiles with a juicy secret. I need your prayers please..............I need advice.

[Ta-An]

Unfortunately I do not know the law in your country.... you need to see a professional for how to proceed... In our country one goes to the police... and then you need to forgive....

[andrew_no_one]

Ephesians 5:11-12
Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret.

[Dizzytimes7]

My son and daughter do not want to press charges or talk to her about the abuse. My son said the time has run out and he can not press charges against her anymore. He and I have forgiven her but we have not spoke to her about this yet. I just can not be around her in family activities or talk to her yet. I want to call her out on all of this but my kids are not ready for me to do that now.

I know God knows the truth of everything she has done over the years even if my other sisters never will know what she did. They do not understand why we are not hanging out with them all anymore.

I pray she does NOT molest anyone else.

[andrew_no_one]

I pray she does NOT molest anyone else.

Suppose there was a snake in the living room, a poisonous one, that had already bitten multiple people including some you care for. Though some may think that a snake has every right to be a snake and even bite people because that is what snakes do, you experience a dilemma of conscience because with every bite the snake inflicts catastrophic harm on it's victims. Though you can assume that the snake has stopped biting, the very fact that it has before (again and again) shows that the snake is in the habit of biting and could very easily do so again, as it is now in it's nature to do so. There are more people to consider; grandchildren, neighborhood children, etcetera. The snake must be removed from the living room.

Exodus 21:28-29
“If a bull gores a man or a woman to death, the bull must be stoned to death, and its meat must not be eaten. But the owner of the bull will not be held responsible. If, however, the bull has had the habit of goring and the owner has been warned but has not kept it penned up and it kills a man or woman, the bull must be stoned and the owner also must be put to death.

James 4:17
Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn’t do it, sins.

[TRL1957]

I will keep praying for you and your family. I am overwhelmed by this, it's just unreal. My heart goes out to you all...I don't know how to advise you, but I promise to pray.

[Vhayes]

My son and daughter do not want to press charges or talk to her about the abuse. My son said the time has run out and he can not press charges against her anymore. He and I have forgiven her but we have not spoke to her about this yet. I just can not be around her in family activities or talk to her yet. I want to call her out on all of this but my kids are not ready for me to do that now.

I know God knows the truth of everything she has done over the years even if my other sisters never will know what she did. They do not understand why we are not hanging out with them all anymore.

I pray she does NOT molest anyone else.

Diz -

You are a wonderful woman, a caring and loving mother and a beloved child of the King.

You have no peace with this because you are not "done" with it. You NEED to talk to your sister. You NEED to let the anger and the hurt out. Only then will you heal. Beyond THAT - she needs to know that she cannot DO these things to your grandchildren or her grandchildren. Know that God will be with you as you go for you are protecting the innocence of little ones - this is NOT about revenge or vengence, this is about prevention. Get the anger out - then go talk with your sister.

I love you, Diz. And so does God.
(((((HUGS)))))
V

[Dizzytimes7]

So I should confront my sister that molested my children then should I tell the other sisters and brother members of the family too? They feel uncomfortable around her but do not know what she has done. She is going in 2 weeks to stay and visit with 2 different family members of 2 different states that both have young children.

[Vhayes]

So I should confront my sister that molested my children then should I tell the other sisters and brother members of the family too? They feel uncomfortable around her but do not know what she has done. She is going in 2 weeks to stay and visit with 2 different family members of 2 different states that both have young children.

Dizzy, she cannot be allowed to go with no one knowing. But you have to talk with her first.

A sexual predator is a manipulator. They use guilt and anger as tools. Please, please, warn your family.

[andrew_no_one]

Dizzy, she cannot be allowed to go with no one knowing. But you have to talk with her first.

A sexual predator is a manipulator. They use guilt and anger as tools. Please, please, warn your family.

I don't think you should discuss anything with her privately before bringing it all out in the open. This will give her time to build her rebuttal or defense. You just want to turn on the kitchen light and catch the roaches unawares. Her mind is highly corrupted if she has done such a thing so talking about it secretly would be fruitless. She’d likely deny everything, act shocked, pretend she is being persecuted, blah blah blah. This isn’t a “Matthew 18:15” thing, this is a “Deuteronomy 17:7” thing. This is a sexual predator that has to be stopped, there really isn’t any need for consultation, diplomacy, or even seeking God’s will, because God has already made His will known about such things: “You must purge the evil from among you.”

[Vhayes]

Dizzy -

Take someone with you. I think you are feeling some serious trepidation and fear. I understand that. You would do well to take someone with you whom she abused. That way, there can be no, "He said, she said."

I feel so bad for you. I wish I could go with you. I would in a heart beat.

Please, don't allow her to manipulate you. She will try to make you feel sorry for her. If that doesn't work, she will ask if you want to ruin everyone's lives. If that doesn't work, she will threaten you, maybe with a lawsuit. If that doesn't work, she will try to make you responsible for it in some way. If that doesn't work, she will start all over again.

I will keep you in my prayers. Strength, wisdom, fearlessness, protection, the Spirit's ability to see and that the Holy Spirit gives you the proper words at the proper time.

Much love to you and prayers over the next several days.

May His love keep you wrapped in His protecting arms.

[Dizzytimes7]

You all write like you know my sister. She was in witchcraft and had a pentegram and black candles during one of the molestations. (This I didn't know until this March after my son went to the therapist.) She has always manipulated people and acts out for sympathy etc. I really thought she got saved. She went to church with me for years. I hope she is saved but my kids have doubted her all this time trying to warn me not to fall for her act. I certainly do not have the gift of discernment.

I angered her last year when I refused to go somewhere with her she was shrill, different, and almost violent towards me. I laughed though cause I know who I am with Christ inside of me. His strength is always enough. She has always hit verbally below the belt and she is good at it but I know it is only words that are lies.

It is great advice to tell the others about her before she visits. I just didn't know how they would respond but I don't want their kids harmed so I will tell them first.

Thanks so much I feel your love and prayers already. I do forgive her and pity her for being used by the devil. But you are right that I am angry still and do not know how to be rid of that. Maybe after I confront her it will leave.

I will keep you posted and pray I handle it the way God wants me to handle this matter.

[andrew_no_one]

We'll all be praying for you.
About the anger thing...just stick with the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Don't involve your speculations or assumptions, only what is true. In this way you'll be able to "detatch" yourself from the situation; get the truth out there and hide behind your sheild of faith.