Oh no, John!
I did NOT mean to say you were being harsh!
I was trying to express to you that I don't respond sometimes until I know - or think I know - by seeing someones posts for a while, that they are going to have a civil and warm conversation!
I was saying that I paid quite a bit of attention to your post, but was explaining why I didn't answer to it.
I will read the rest of your post here after I get over my shock at coming across that way. I'm sorry.