Re: Women speaking in the church
Titus 2:3-4 "Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God." NIV
As a woman, I have no problem teaching women or being taught by women, for this is based in Scripture (as quoted above). I find no Biblical evidence that a woman should pastor a church, though. (I'm not so sure about the odd preaching assignment - I've heard some excellent sermons given by women).
I would definitely not like it at all if my husband had to submit to another woman spiritually, since I believe that would go against God's will.
"For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope." (NASB)