Why has God curse some of us with be single for life?

[logos7]

Just as stated, why has God cursed some of us with being single for life?

[Indueseason]

I don't believe He does. It was God who said, it is not good for man to be alone. I'm guessing you are unhappy being single, can I suggest that instead of blaming God, you pray about it? He will provide what you need, be that a spouse, or acceptance of being single for now. Give it up to Him, His plans for you are good.

blessings to you

[Dani H]

How is being single a curse? Many married people would consider it a blessing ... that's why there's so much divorce. All depends on one's perspective now, doesn't it?

[Reynolds357]

Just as stated, why has God cursed some of us with being single for life?

How did you determine that it is God's will for you to be single? How did you then determine being single was a curse?

[amazzin]

It's not a curse. Where do you read that in the Bible?

[logos7]

I know there are some people happy being single, more power to them. But if one has an overactive drive, will how is it not a curse.

First before the fall, there was only one thing that God said wasn't good hence the woman was created from the man's rib (Genesis 2:18-25). Second the Bible tells us; Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. Proverbs 18:22 Thirdly when the Jerusalem Council meet over the question of Gentile believers they pass three or four commands; ...that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and from fornication, and from things strangled, and from blood. Acts 15:20 see also Acts 15:29. And Paul tells the believers to avoid fornication let them married (I Corinthians 7:2). Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4.I feel totally judged by God, but where does this judgment end? Will the Blood of Jesus cover me if I have cross a line, or do cross a line?


But instead for myself and other singles who have problems keeping our purity, we are told we have the gift of singleness; sure this is usually by those who have the gift of marriage, and most of them would not want the gift of singleness. I really don't know were the Bible states the gift of singleness, those I sure someone readed what Paul said by permission and not commandment I Corinthians 7:6-12, for we see in verse 6 Paul speaks by permission, and again in verse 12 Paul speaks and not the Lord.










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[PJW]

Singleness is a gift, to me.
I will never have to bury a wife or child.
I will never have an arguement in public with one who professes their love for me.
I will never have the responsibility of loved ones who rely on me.
I thank God that nobody will be damaged for something I have, or have not done.

[jayne]

I’m 50 years old and have never married. I understand what your heart – and to be honest, what your body – is crying out about in your original post.

And it’s very, very frustrating to hear married people just sort of “blow it off” and tell you how “blessed” you are. I’ve been there – many times. The comment that I hate the most is from my married friends who are mad at their husbands for whatever reason who tell me, “You just don’t know how lucky you are not to have to deal with a husband!!” And I used to get the constant, “WHY aren’t you married yet?” Such conflicting comments drive me crazy.

Then there are those who are convinced that single Christians are asexual – like protozoans. LOL!! The church doesn’t address being single because the church is all about the “family”. The church doesn’t address widowed people much and certainly not the divorced – except to tell them what sinners they are.

The church has done a VERY poor job in teaching adults who don’t live the life of the nuclear family how to live happily, productively, and sanely. And the church will never address to those without a spouse how to address our sexuality and learn to re-direct that focus somewhere else because - well, as I said, we aren’t supposed to know anything about sex.

In my own personal opinion, this is one of the causes that sends so many single, widowed, and divorced people down the road of seeking out the relief of sexual tension in the wrong places. No one teaches people like us how to re-direct out focuses. They only teach us that you are a great big sinner and for us girls – we are great big whores – if you have sex without a spouse
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OK, that was my rant and my telling you that I understand.

Now.....LISTEN UP and LISTEN HARD!

The truth is that being single, widowed, or divorced is NOT a curse from God. God doesn’t punish ANYONE with the “loneliness lightning bolt”. God’s love for us is immeasurable. And sometimes – all of us – married or not can allow the aches and pains in our lives to overtake us and become the sole focus of our lives. And that’s so personally destructive. And it can lead to blaming God for something that He is not the cause of.

You are not allowed - Biblically or otherwise to "blame" God for your singleness. It is not a curse. It just is what it is. And can I just be honest? You say that you have an active sex drive. I believe you. But dear, that's what everyone who is not getting sex says. Men, women, married, single, divorced - people who are in need of sex and haven't had it in a while always believe that their sex drive is high. It's not that it's high. It's that it's normal!!

For those of us who are not supposed to be fornicating - - try some prayer, some physical exercise, some re-direction, some focusing on the welfare of others - but most of all - tell God about it. He will listen. The church won't. But God WILL. Ask Him to give you some re-direction in your life.

It ain't easy and it ain't always fun. But in the long run - it's very profitable for your spirit. You will be happier and not so miserable. And it's a whole lot better than the pity party.

I’m going to leave you with two excerpts from two essays by Jack Zavada. Jack is 60 years old and has never married. LISTEN to what he has to say.

The Ugly Truth About Loneliness by Jack Zavada

Marriage doesn't guarantee an end to loneliness. Millions of married people are lonely too, still looking for a level of understanding and acceptance their spouse doesn't give them. The ugly truth is that loneliness is an inescapable part of the human condition, as even Jesus found out. He was the most well-adjusted person who ever lived, yet he knew times of deep loneliness too.

If you accept the truth that loneliness is unavoidable, what can you do about it?

I think you can decide how big a role you're willing to let loneliness play in your life. You can refuse to let it dominate your existence. That's a daring approach. If you take a stand that bold, you'll only be able to achieve it if you rely on the Holy Spirit for help.

None of us turns to the Holy Spirit as often as we should. We forget that he's the real presence of Christ on earth, living within us to give encouragement and guidance.

When you invite the Holy Spirit to supervise your attitude, you can become a happy person who knows occasional times of loneliness, instead of a lonely person who knows occasional times of happiness. That's not a play on words. It's a real, achievable goal.

One way to keep loneliness in check is to refuse to label yourself as a victim. When you interpret every adversity as a personal insult toward you, your pessimistic outlook becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead, recognize that bad things happen to everybody, but you make the choice whether you'll become bitter over them.

As I look back on my own life, I see now that I spent many years praying for the wrong thing. Instead of praying for a spouse and a happy marriage, I should have been asking God for courage. That's what I needed. That's what all singles need.

We need courage to overcome our fear of rejection. We need courage to reach out to other people. And most importantly, we need courage to recognize that we do have the choice to assign loneliness to a minor, infrequent role in our life.

Reasons to Avoid Bitterness as a Single Christian by Jack Zavada

Maybe you've slipped into the bitterness trap unaware. You have wanted to get married for some time now. You have even told God that you deserve to be happy and in love. But no matter how hard you've prayed, God doesn't seem to careWhen you're not married but you want to be, it's very easy to become bitter.

Christians hear sermons on how obedience brings blessings, and you wonder why God won't bless you with a spouse. You obey God to the best of your ability, you pray that you'll meet the right person, and yet it doesn't happen.

It's even tougher when friends or relatives have happy marriages and children. You ask, "Why not me, God? Why can't I have what they have?"

Long term frustration can lead to anger, and anger can degenerate into bitterness. Often you don't even realize you've slipped into a resentful attitude. If that's happened to you, here is a good reason to get out of that trap.

Bitterness can put you in an adversarial relationship with God. You blame him because you're not married and think he's punishing you for some reason. That's dead wrong, because Scripture says God is not only enormously in love with you, but that his love is constant and unconditional.

God wants to help you, not hurt you: "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." (Isaiah 41:10 NIV)

Your intimate, personal relationship with Jesus Christ is the source of your strength when things are going wrong. Bitterness forgets hope. Bitterness misdirects your focus onto your problem, instead of on God.

[amazzin]

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