Re: Is my fiancee right to demand I give up my hobbies, interests and who I am?
"If I love her Iíll do this and that" This is Kind of an Ultimatum...
She is basically saying If you don't do this and that YOU don't love her?
Now i think since you're so worried about your relationship and her..that this just isn't true..You do love her!
So how is it if you like hobbies you don't?
Jesus said that too.."If you love me you'll do as I command" But in the original translation "If" was actually "Because" ..So now its "Because you love me you will do as I Command" It Changes the whole theme Of what he was saying... no longer making it an ultimatum..acknowledging that (He was talking to his disciples) they did love him and never diminishing that or saying there could be a reason they don't.
If She truly loves you..why are "Hobbies" a Problem?
And why would She even consider that you didn't love her?
It really seems she is Immature in this.. and Like She would avoid trying to hurt people she doesn't know but You..
Or Not necessarily "Hurt" but Push If you will..
I'm really sorry this is happening..but if she is giving up on your relationship over something this small..Then she isn't ready for you or "Worth it" But i think everyone is worth it she just has to be willing to try..
"Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and Gave Himself up for her" Love is separate from physical.
To say you Don't love her because You won't give up Hobbies for her(Even though you clearly stated you would) is wrong and immature again.. You have stated you would give everything for her..and it doesn't seem like She will let it in her head..
and even if you didn't ...she shouldn't ask you to do that if she "Loved you" as long as it is not hurting your relationship or isn't sinful SHE should not be asking these things.
I really don't know what to say Bro.. If she refuses Counseling.. Is willing to break off 8 years because of this..She doesn't "Love" you with the same love she is Demanding out of you..
If she can't give it..Then she shouldn't demand it.
And if she can't give it..She shouldn't be trying to marry anyone..
Until she can Mentally and Spiritually Grow up YOU should not marry her..
Unfortunately that is all there is now..
I'm a walking paradox, No I'm not.
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