Re: Is my fiancee right to demand I give up my hobbies, interests and who I am? (From
People need to know and understand that marriage is a partnership! Its two people walking together for the rest of their life. That's never easy.
But from my own experience, let me say that each of us must live for the other and we walk this walk together. True love is a benevolent love. A GIVING love.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
If you two can't walk together NOW and reach such a simple agreement, then why on earth do you think marriage would change anything?
You've never said whether or not the two of you are in church together. Seeking to serve the Lord together. Working as a team 'in training' for a lifetime together. Do you pray together? Study the Bible together? Visit the sick together?
The best thing you both can do is get your life to Christ as it should be and the rest will fall into place........... This is the voice of experience talking to you.
My favorite scripture: Malachi 3:16
"Then they that feared the LORD spake often one to another: and the LORD hearkened, and heard it, and a book of remembrance was written before him for them that feared the LORD, and that thought upon his name!" (Every time we speak of the Lord, or even THINK of him--its written down in a book of remembrance!)