Today I have shared a bit of my history in the other thread. In short I married Christian men and they abused me and left me.
Certainly the men I married, and many of the other men in the churches we attended figured the bible had given them a free ticket to make the women submit. They thought the Word of God only said they had to love us enough to die for us (and thanked God they'd probably never have to prove it), but we had to submit and honour and obey them in everything everyday. If you're a man you answer to God. If you are a woman you answer to your husband as if he is God and to God too. Some men just go wild with this and if you even have a differing opinion they get defensive and call you rebellious and wicked... I never bucked the system and I was a faithful little wife to each and every one of them but they did their damage and went their way.
I only just joined the forum today but these are the reasons I posted my query here in the women's section and not in a more active 'co-ed' area of the board. Due to past experience I am a bit wary of men who profess to be Christians. I know there is a chance that this forum is not as active as some of the others and may not give as much response to anything I post but this is likely where I will stay put.
Sadly the Christian men I've known closely have been the sort to 'lord over' the women and demand what they believe to be their right to extra respect as 'the man'. I don't believe that men are any more important than women as all the women I've known loved the Lord and sacrificed everything for their husbands and their children with very little in the way of reward or appreciation. The men were always waited on and allowed to get away with murder.
I realise this is just my experience, but sadly it has changed the way I view men in general, but especially American Christian men. I would have thought that Christian men would be trying to be more like Christ, who I don't believe was domineering nor expected to be catered to left and right even though as God, He should have been.
It is yet another thing I need healing for in my life.