Divorce Question - A New Creation in Christ

[conniew]

Good evening ladies... I'm hoping to get some advice here...I am a new Christian and I want to start my "new" life right...as such I am struggling with a few issues...

1. I have been married, twice and divorced twice...I was not a Christian when I married nor was I married to Christian men or even in a church...I have been divorced for 5 years...I also have two children with my second ex-husband, he and his family have custody and will not allow me to see them, not for any fault of my own. When I had my second child, my ex and I agreed that it would be best if I got "fixed" and therefore I am unable to have anymore children.

2. I have read in the Bible that it is better to marry than to "burn"... I'm 33 and I have very over-whelming desires when it comes my sexual nature. Since becoming a Christian I do not act out on these but I am definitely guilty of fantasizing about them and from what I read in the Bible, it is just as bad as if I did it...

So my question is...is it okay for me to re-marry? I mean not like right now, I don't even date now...but in the long run...I do have a longing for a Godly husband...something I never had...but I know I won't be able to give him a child...but I would love a partner to go through this world with.

I would be so thankful for any insight that you all could share with me...


Connie

[conniew]

Actually...Could I get a Mod to move this to counseling? It may be better suited for there...

[Indueseason]

Hey Connie, I moved your thread for you

As for your question, If you were unsaved when you got married both times, then they are under the blood, same as every sin you ever committed. If any man be i Christ, he is a new Creation, the old has passed away and the new has come. (2Cor 5:17) This means you can move forward and start afresh, doing it God's way this time.

I am sorry you dont get to see your kids, that must be hard

blessings to you

[Boo]

I think you'll find that many of us here have been through at least part of what you are going through.

I hope you can believe me when I say I totally understand your dilemma. I pray that you will find the husband that God intends for you. You will see how wonderful marriage can be when God is involved in the choice.

Just don't go looking in the wrong places or for the wrong reasons. Be patient, obedient, and prayerful. Learn to love as God intended us to - from the heart instead of the flesh. Marriages bashed on fleshly love are seldomly long term - as you have seen.

[conniew]

So true...thank you both for your kind words...I have been divorced for 5 years now and I've been on dates but no real relationships...Just feel like right now I am working on me for a bit...