Offense

[Ta-An]

All my life, if I got my feelings hurt I would become quiet and walk away. I don't like arguing. Now, this walking away isn't a righteous walking away, but a survival walking away. I think we take offense when we feel we have been unjustly judged, guilty of what was said, or shocked that the person could say or do whatever we took offense at. We all react different; where I get quiet and walk away, others respond.

grandma

So, in other words, you are 'sulking' because you took offense?

[teddyv]

Sometimes people can take offence at the most surprising things. I also think we can take things to heart too quickly, we feel wronged, so we hit back straight away. Sometimes it is good to step back a moment and think things over. It is very easy to reply with emotion on these forums or those like it. We can say things we will regret the moment we speak without thinking.

This is right on, especially with regard to discussion in this medium. Without the aid of reading body and facial language, it makes it that much more difficult to read intentions. Emoticons can help, but they can also cover the actual intent. I have found that when I read something potentially offensive, it is often prudent to simply respond with a clarification - thus allowing a 'way out' for the other poster if they simply did not realize what they wrote or how it might come across (and especially with users from various countries where language has its own nuances). Taking the time to clarify instead of going into attack mode would probably solve a lot of 'offence' issues.

[Ta-An]

I visited a church of a different denomination, different language, in a different town this morning,,,, and I was so so blessed.
He started off with the Scripture from Heb12: 1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,
2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

He spoke about the things that hinders us running this race.... and he touched on UN-FORGIVENESS , which forms a root of bitterness in ones life, which allows you to take offense all the time!! When you hear somebody saying : Why always me??? Why does bad things always happen to me?? Why always me me me ?? And that is because of the root of bitterness that has set in, in ones life, draws that bad fruit/attitude to you.....
He then quoted v14:Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:
... and peace can be acquired if you are prepared to forgive, because you are keeping your eyes on Jesus the Author and finisher of our faith

Live as a bride in preparation for the Bridegroom

[Dani H]

Being continually personally offended is a really good sign that you are way too stuck on yourself ...

Cause the reality of it is, it ain't about you.

[grandma dolittle]

No, I just don't like to argue about anything. I perfer to walk away insteading of getting into a argument. it is not sulking.

grandma