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LivinHisWay
Nov 17th 2008, 02:38 AM
I know that when I repent and am truly sorry God will forgive. I am not going back, but I still feel terrible.

I was reading things I shouldnt and thinking about things I shouldnt and my thought process was messed up for a while.

We werent really going to church and God wasnt my first priority...

I was pretending to have 'sex' with a pillow and 'make-out' with it...


I feel terrible and can only think about what that will do to my future when I get married. Yeah, I would fantasize too... I feel SOO bad...

I dont know what to do.

LivinHisWay
Nov 17th 2008, 02:43 AM
Anyone able to help? I know its sick...

ilovemetal
Nov 17th 2008, 03:28 AM
I know that when I repent and am truly sorry God will forgive. I am not going back, but I still feel terrible.

I was reading things I shouldnt and thinking about things I shouldnt and my thought process was messed up for a while.

ok. elaborate a bit on this for us...


We werent really going to church and God wasnt my first priority...

I was pretending to have 'sex' with a pillow and 'make-out' with it...


who is we?
and, i did some similar things when i was young...how old are you, and can you expand on your situation a bit more...





I feel terrible and can only think about what that will do to my future when I get married. Yeah, I would fantasize too... I feel SOO bad...

I dont know what to do.

hey man(girl?), don't let the devil beat you up over these things. first thing to do is ask for forgivness, and try to figure out how to stop. it seems like you might be struggling with porn or something around the sexual area of life.

let it be known, we all struggle with this problem. it takes the strength of God to overcome. i finally beat porn and lust. it's hard as heck, but God can help. we on this site are here to help too...

if you tell us more we can help more...

RedBird777
Nov 19th 2008, 11:47 PM
All sin is forgiven by the blood of Jesus Christ.
If you truly feel this bad, take it up to the throne of God, and let Him deal with this evil.

I have dealt with sex as well, and I do regret it, but I am NOT going to let it haunt me.
Even though you may think that it is the end and that everything will fall apart for you and your future (husband/wife), that is not the case. It may complicate things (I wouldn't know THAT just yet), but it will work out.

EvangMike
Nov 23rd 2008, 06:47 AM
LivingHisWay - Hi. The great news is - as someone else said here that God is merciful. He said: "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (I Jn. 1:9).

Getting forgiveness is easy - for the believer - but it cost God a lot to give it to us. Praise His worthy Name that He loves His own - forever. Sometimes, however, we can have problems forgiving ourselves. Satan is a deceiver, and he can take away your joy if you don't. Don't let him hold this over you any longer. Claim I Jn. 1:9 and tell God you are sorry for not bringing the matter to Him sooner.

Once forgiven, I want to encourage you to take some steps to get beyond it. Here are some thoughts to help you get victory over the thought life. God is able to help - and we all have to seek His help. I posted these elsewhere in this forum, and I think it will be helpful here, too.

"God never forsakes His own. Sometimes, though, our lives may become so busy and cluttered that it becomes hard to hear Him anymore.

When we get stressed - as can easily happen to anyone - we often start to go in multiple directions at once. Thoughts become out of focus and we no longer are focused on Him. People - even girlfriends - should not take the place of God in our thoughts.

Do you really want to get close to God again?

1. Realize that thoughts that are out of order and chaotic are not from God.
2. Consider God's will about your thought life:
"Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ" (II Cor. 10:5).
3. Think about Satan's desire to turn your mind from Christ - which he has done because you no longer are grasping the Scripture messages.
4. Focus on Christ's power to deliver you when you call on Him and ask for His power to order your thoughts.
5. Do the will of God and meditate on Scriptures through the day. Pick some (like II Cor. 10:5) and memorize it and then turn it into a prayer when faced with Satan's devices.

Hope this helps. God Bless."

Forth the March
Nov 23rd 2008, 07:43 AM
Try to steer away these things by trusting in God, pray constantly, never give up on yourself because that is how you can ultimately wind up in more sin.