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  • How did my son get so smart? By God's amazing grace!

    My son, Nate, who is now 14 years old is one of those kids I used to really dislike in school that never studied for a test or did the reviews but still scores a 100%. Its an amazing thing for me to see on a daily bases now. He has been averaging all A's this year in middle school with the exception of math where he gets B's. Math is a bit of a challenge for him. Thank goodness he has a grandpa that is a retired college professor in math because I am clueless when it comes to this subject!

    When people see kids like my son I think they tend to think life has always been easy for them..that they have never had to struggle and they envy them and even become jealous because things are so much tougher for them. Especially in school. While I can't speak for others I can only speak for my son, and say no, life has been far from a bed of roses for him.

    My son hasn't always been this way in school. In fact he really struggled in his early years with school due to a learning disability in reading and spelling. When a child isn't reading well of course that affects all his other classes too. On top of this he also has ADHD and an anxiety disorder...in preschool he was diagnoses with delays in his fine and gross motor skills and a sensory integration disorder. On top of that, he had many air borne allergies and food allergies that made him sick alot. He had to endure weekly allergy shots and a drastic change in the foods he could eat. He was sick alot in his younger years with sinus infections..as a baby he endured horrible ear infections that just wouldn't clear up. He caught anything and everything out there.

    In Kindergarten and first grade he was hiding the little papers he was suppose to bring home and practice reading. He was also coming home in tears because he just wasn't getting it. His anxiety was sky rocketing because he just wasn't understanding. His self esteem was daily being crushed leaving him feeling stupid and 'different' from the other children.

    Meanwhile through these very difficult years I was getting him the help he needed. He got help for all these problems I listed so we had constant appointment to go too. After homeschooling at one point and still seeing no process in his learning we moved to another part of town and got him back in school with me pushing the school to test him for a learning disability so he could get the help he needed. After repeating first grade again, he finally got that help and advanced by leaps and bounds due to the grace of God and a wonderful LD teacher. Gradually he needed less and less help and early this year after a review testing in which he scored so high he is no longer considered learning disabled. Praise God for that!

    Now my son is confidence and calm in school which is a drastic differences from those early years where he came home in tears or at bedtime would cry because he just wanted to be 'normal'. At bedtime prayers besides the Lord's Prayer, I would pray he have no 'bad dreams'. Nate would go through cycles of having nightmares that would go on for three to four nights in a row leaving him exhausted when he went to school. If he was just so tired I couldn't even wake him up for school I would have to keep him home so he could rest as he would be too tired to even learn anything at all. This all just added to his struggles of course.

    When I first considered putting him back in school to get the help he needed..something I couldn't do because of my own learning disability..I asked God about it. I didn't want to see him crushed and ruined in a pubic school because of his problems. I was also concerned about the immortally that goes on in public schools too. I was unsure if this was the right decision or not So I asked our Father. And He told me to 'walk with my son' through all of this. And not just school, but life in general. I knew what it was like to feel stupid in school..in life. To not fit in. To be socially backwards. To sit in class and not have a clue what the teacher was talking about. I knew what it was like to try so very, very hard and still get F's on my tests. I knew what it was like to be laughed at by other kids and at times even teachers. I didn't want my son to go through that. But I was helpless ..I taught him nothing that year I home schooled though I tried my best. So I put him in God's hands on this.

    This is also the first year I haven't gotten calls from the principle at school because of some trouble he got into. Or had to have teacher meetings or deal with teachers that just didn't understand some of his problems or because he was misbehaving. Instead I am getting posts cards from the school saying he achieved excellent grades..was voted 'Student of the week' and got to attend a ceremony for the kids that got Student of the week so they could receive certificates for that.

    The bible is right..we reap what we sow and nothing is more important then sowing good seeds in our children starting before they are born! I pray everyday when I drop him off at school that the Lord guides him in His ways and opens his mind to learning and to be calm and confident in school. To protect him from anything evil.

    I could tell you so many stories of those early days..the struggles, the tears, the heartache. The times when his grandma would take him and I would fall in a heap on the floor and cry out to God. After awhile I was beyond words. I begged, I pleaded, I wept for my son.

    I haven't even brought up the major behavior and emotional problems he had...maybe in another article I will. It would make this one too long.

    The point of this article is to let others know there IS hope in the Lord. When Jesus says "And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. (John 8:32) He really means it. I don't think people realize the depth of these words.

    The school told me few students make it out of LD classes. That Nate is one of the few success stories out there. I find that very sad and I also wonder why. While studies show LD's can run in families, it doesn't mean its a hopeless situation by any means. I believe the Lord did place secular services here to help us...but those alone won't do the trick. Without Him first working in the lives of our children we are relying only on the world to solves their challenges. The key ingredient is missing. Now lessons just seem to click for him. He rarely struggles with understanding unless it comes to writing. He still struggles with putting his thoughts down on paper and can get pretty anxious about that. But otherwise his mind is 'getting it' where when he was younger, he just didn't. Its amazing to see!

    Now I won't say my son is perfect by any means...but as far as I am concerned he is a walking miracle. If I ever think of doubting God in any form all I have to do is look at my son and remember how far he has come. He was in such bad shape emotionally early in his life I am afraid I can't say it was solely by his own will power or some inner strength he overcame all these obstacle. And God worked on me alot in all of this too. Before my son, I only thought I knew how to pray. I learned how to pray constantly! And fervently...

    We have also gone through some trials with finding a good church that would really help my son connect with God. Again, after several years of praying for finding that church, God answered our prayers. Now my son actually wants to go to church and youth group. Not only has God worked a miracle in his life on him being able to learn and to calm his fearful spirit, He is working with him to grow in Christ. My son desperately needed to be fed spiritually. I did as much as I could at home of course..but he needed that connection with a group of believers that were his peers to deal with living in a sin fallen world. To know when other students at school are doing wrong and not just follow that because he didn't know better. So not only is he growing in school in his studies but also growing in the Lord.

    As far as his allergies go, the Lord has healed many of the food allergies and Nate rarely gets sick anymore due to his airborne allergies. His nightmares have stopped too...again thanks to the Lord for showing me the cause of them. There are hundreds..if not thousands of little things through the years..and big things, where God has guided me or someone else to help my son to overcome all these things.

    While he still has ADHD...that can be outgrown. And he still struggles some with his anxiety and is on medication for that..the Lord has told me this will take time. Nate has some emotional healing yet to do. Again that covers another topic that I may write about at a later date.

    In the early terrible years, God kept telling me Nate would be fine. But I struggled with that..I kept asking Him, what do I need to do? How is he going to be fine? When? I wrestled with God about this for years! Sure it would be nice if He emailed us a list of things to do...lol. Step one and step two and so forth. But that isn't how He works. It all took time and things I needed to equip me as I needed them would just happen! Before that I was left in the dark and simply had to trust God.

    Its kind of like finding yourself stranded in the middle of a violent rushing river standing on one lone rock. When it was needed, another rock for me to step on would appear! So for all these years..since literally my son was born, I have been walking on these rocks as they appear. I don't know if I have reached the other side yet..to the safety of the river bank since my son is now in his teenage years which can bring their own challenges...but I will just wait for the next rock to appear.

    My son's name is Nathan..which means, a gift from God.

    • daughter
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      daughter commented
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      I knew that just like his mother, Nate had faith in the Lord, so even when you were worrying about his "natisms", I was sure that everything would work out for good. Well, I'm glad to see such a turn around so early in his life, and I'm thanking God with you that He has rewarded the faith of your little family in this way. Thank you so much for sharing this!

    • PraiseChrist
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      PraiseChrist commented
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      I don't want to put you on a downer but please realise that just because your child is performing well at school lately does not mean you son will continue at the same rate of learning for the next 10 years, arguably when learning matters most.

      Most children, I believe level off or catch up to a "mean distribution" standard. Therefore most hopes and fears are generally misfounded, oh well.

    • moonglow
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      moonglow commented
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      Originally posted by PraiseChrist
      I don't want to put you on a downer but please realise that just because your child is performing well at school lately does not mean you son will continue at the same rate of learning for the next 10 years, arguably when learning matters most.

      Most children, I believe level off or catch up to a "mean distribution" standard. Therefore most hopes and fears are generally misfounded, oh well.
      Yea I am very aware of that leveling out as you say, but I am also aware that usually happens early on in grade school. Boys tend to lag behind girls on certain subjects in grade school but then catch up. He did test for a learning disablity..not just a slow learner in some areas. Being 14 yr old now I don't think he is going to start having problems again..not unless there were some major upsets in his life. Things like death of a family member, divorce, moving..all that can affect grades of course. Learning actually matters the most in the very early years. The first five years of life is when a child learns the most actually. The brain continues to develop until age 25.

      I am sorry you don't believe the Lord can heal a person of a learning disablity and open their minds to being able to learn and understand what they are taught in school without the extra help.

      God bless
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