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    Hi

    Pornography addiction is something that I struggle with and that many people I've known have been afflicted by (though they did not seek to overcome it as from their standpoint as unbelievers there was nothing wrong with the act). I was just wondering if anyone who has overcome the problem could offer advice. For now I will just say that I turn to pornography in times of boredom, upset or when feeling promiscuous. If it becomes necessary to describe my problem in more specific detail then I will do so in the interest of helping you to provide the best advice. Please help me turn away from this vile habit which is providing Satan with a foothold to enter into my life.

    Thank you.
    "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus."

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    Re: Porn Addiction

    Originally posted by Believer77 View Post
    Hi

    Pornography addiction is something that I struggle with and that many people I've known have been afflicted by (though they did not seek to overcome it as from their standpoint as unbelievers there was nothing wrong with the act). I was just wondering if anyone who has overcome the problem could offer advice. For now I will just say that I turn to pornography in times of boredom, upset or when feeling promiscuous. If it becomes necessary to describe my problem in more specific detail then I will do so in the interest of helping you to provide the best advice. Please help me turn away from this vile habit which is providing Satan with a foothold to enter into my life.

    Thank you.
    Hi

    Pretty hard to do on the internet. I suggest you get real time help from a pastor or counsellor. You need proper follow up and accountability which we can't really provide effectively
    Amazzin

    Obedience to God is more than a soldier obeying his commander. It is our grateful response to the Lover of our souls.

    CHURCH: Where worship is enjoyed, not endured - Grace is preached, not legalism - And Christ is exalted, not religion!



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    • #3
      Re: Porn Addiction

      Originally posted by amazzin View Post
      Hi

      Pretty hard to do on the internet. I suggest you get real time help from a pastor or counsellor. You need proper follow up and accountability which we can't really provide effectively
      Surely we can at least give our own Scriptural insight on the matter, given that God is going to be the real (Wonderful) Counsellor in his life and that Christ's primary means of resisting temptation was His Word?

      Believer, I'm not well-versed enough to know what exactly will be most effective for you other than prayer and the growth that starts from there. But I think Peter gives a good template that can apply to much more:

      For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness ... (2 Pt. 1:5)

      It seems that self-control - and subsequently, steadfastness/perseverance - stems from your knowledge in the Word. So if I were you, I'd study the topic of sexual immortality (such as the severity of it) and marriage (the standard), but also how we overcome sin in general. As long as you know that you can resist temptation because your old self has died and your sins have been paid for, prayer and study will be your foundation for building self-control. If you're like me, you'll find that the self-control part isn't difficult - it's always having self-control.

      Maybe you will only begin to control your desires for "a time;" then as you continue, you will be able to resist twice as much; then three times, etc. This builds perseverance! Just don't fall for the lie that you are unable to say "no," and put your trust in God rather than yourself or others.

      Looks like you already feel convicted, so that means the Holy Spirit resides with you and your body is His temple. Hopefully that is both comforting and sobering to realize, but I pray that He makes it very uncomfortable any time you are about to fall!
      「耶和華聖潔無比,獨一無二,沒有磐石像我們的上帝。
      撒母耳記上 (1 Samuel) 2:2

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      • #4
        Re: Porn Addiction

        A few months ago I was reprimanded for being too frank about this, and I'm not doing anything different here, so let's see if this post flies.

        The more testosterone you have, the more difficult it is to not think about sex. If you're like me you just do everything harder, faster, and more passionately, because where else is your sexual energy going to go if you're not married? The desire isn't going anywhere, but indulging it with porn is a choice. I don't do porn anymore, but for me it was a gradual process, and it didn't start with a clear conviction that it is sin. The progression of convictions went something like this:

        this is a waste of time since I'm not getting closer to real women;
        these women are selling their bodies for money and I shouldn't support that;
        these other women do it for free, but they are really emotionally unhealthy, and that's unattractive;
        healthy is attractive, and even if they look healthy, people in healthy relationships don't share pornos;
        God, I think you're telling me to not watch anything that stirs up those desires;
        God, that girl I like rejected me, so in my pain I pledge never to look again.

        With each conviction my porn use was cut in half until I stopped altogether. Your mileage may vary.

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        • #5
          Re: Porn Addiction

          There were special half-day seminar events at my church a while ago called "Pancakes and Porn" for men and teenage boys to thoughtfully discuss porn from a Christian perspective and how to overcome porn addiction. I obviously never attended it, but I remember the posters. I know the church that hosts the events was established with sensitivity for those who work in the porn industry and feel too ashamed to go to church but have a desire to, and those who have porn addictions they are too ashamed to seek help in overcoming. Maybe their website will have helpful information for you - http://www.xxxchurch.com

          The only practical advice I can think of is that you cultivate other hobbies and interests to fill up your time and divert your attention when you're feeling bored, upset, or promiscuous.

          Good luck!

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          • #6
            Re: Porn Addiction

            A poll conducted by "one of the world's most visited Christian website" indicates a surprising number of Christians are addicted to pornography.

            "The poll results indicate that 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women are addicted to pornography.

            The group defines "addicted" as applied to pornography as use on an ongoing basis.

            "We are seeing an escalation to the problem in both men and women who regularly attend church," said Bill Cooper, President of ChristiaNet.com.

            "No one is immunized against the vice-grip clutches of sexual addictive behaviors," reads a release issued by the site. "The people who struggle with the repeated pursuit of sexual gratification include church members, deacons, staff, and yes, even clergy."

            How many Christians (especially) men can honestly say, "whenever I am tempted to lust, I NEVER give in." I have 100% conquered that sin. No problem?

            If David, who was “a man after God’s own heart,” and many other strong men and women of faith yielded to sexual temptation, it could happen to any of us. Pornography may be the new addiction of this new century. Researchers are finding that when people indulge in porn, they release powerful chemicals in their brain and body. Mark Kastleman, author of The Drug of the New Millennium, said, "There are a growing number of therapists and psychologists who are saying that this is as addictive as cocaine," or alcohol, or even heroin. He explained that, when people view porn, "It causes the brain to release what we call endogenous drugs or endogenous chemicals. 'Endogenous' meaning 'produced from within.' So where cocaine or alcohol seek to mimic the brain's natural chemicals, pornography releases the real deal. And so we have things like adrenaline, epinephrine, ACTH."

            Due to our fallen nature, we will have to deal with the temptation to lust until we die. The temptation to lust will come in many forms including ungodly sexual appetites; and there are lusts, such as the lust of power, fame or position. We must rely on the power of the Holy Spirit inside us to overcome lust every day. No matter the form of lust we face, we can be assured that we have a High Priest and Advocate with the Father who "understands every weakness of ours" and "was tempted in every way that we are. But He did not sin" (Hebrews 4:15; 1 John 2:1). I like what Arabesque said (she is a wise young woman!) "cultivate other hobbies and interests to fill up your time and divert your attention when you're feeling bored, upset, or promiscuous." Good advice! 1 Corinthians 6:18 says to flee sexual immorality! I can tell you that the first step in giving up porn addiction is that you have to REALLY WANT TO GIVE IT UP. Pour your heart out to Jesus and ask Him for the power to give it up. You can't simply suppress it in your own strength and give it up through your own power.
            Galatians 6:14 - But God forbid that I should boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world.

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            • #7
              Re: Porn Addiction

              Originally posted by Aviyah View Post
              Surely we can at least give our own Scriptural insight on the matter, given that God is going to be the real (Wonderful) Counsellor in his life and that Christ's primary means of resisting temptation was His Word?

              Believer, I'm not well-versed enough to know what exactly will be most effective for you other than prayer and the growth that starts from there. But I think Peter gives a good template that can apply to much more:

              For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness ... (2 Pt. 1:5)

              It seems that self-control - and subsequently, steadfastness/perseverance - stems from your knowledge in the Word. So if I were you, I'd study the topic of sexual immortality (such as the severity of it) and marriage (the standard), but also how we overcome sin in general. As long as you know that you can resist temptation because your old self has died and your sins have been paid for, prayer and study will be your foundation for building self-control. If you're like me, you'll find that the self-control part isn't difficult - it's always having self-control.

              Maybe you will only begin to control your desires for "a time;" then as you continue, you will be able to resist twice as much; then three times, etc. This builds perseverance! Just don't fall for the lie that you are unable to say "no," and put your trust in God rather than yourself or others.

              Looks like you already feel convicted, so that means the Holy Spirit resides with you and your body is His temple. Hopefully that is both comforting and sobering to realize, but I pray that He makes it very uncomfortable any time you are about to fall!
              Thank you. Yes maintaining self control is the hard part, because despite the sincerety of my conviction to overcome there are still times when I succumb. I read an article that advised readers to surrender to the lord when lust was upon them, and pray for strength. That is a massive help, but sometimes when the urge is particularly strong, and I consciously ignore the cure and take the poison with wild abandon. But I am growing better as I persist.
              "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus."

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              • #8
                Re: Porn Addiction

                Originally posted by little watchman View Post
                A few months ago I was reprimanded for being too frank about this, and I'm not doing anything different here, so let's see if this post flies.

                The more testosterone you have, the more difficult it is to not think about sex. If you're like me you just do everything harder, faster, and more passionately, because where else is your sexual energy going to go if you're not married? The desire isn't going anywhere, but indulging it with porn is a choice. I don't do porn anymore, but for me it was a gradual process, and it didn't start with a clear conviction that it is sin. The progression of convictions went something like this:

                this is a waste of time since I'm not getting closer to real women;
                these women are selling their bodies for money and I shouldn't support that;
                these other women do it for free, but they are really emotionally unhealthy, and that's unattractive;
                healthy is attractive, and even if they look healthy, people in healthy relationships don't share pornos;
                God, I think you're telling me to not watch anything that stirs up those desires;
                God, that girl I like rejected me, so in my pain I pledge never to look again.

                With each conviction my porn use was cut in half until I stopped altogether. Your mileage may vary.
                I follow a similar path of thought, but try to convince myself with rhetoric to stop what I'm doing. But I can't control my mind with my mind, I have to turn to God and let him take the reins. But because pornography and masturbation and sexual imaginings are so familiar to me I'm sometimes reluctant to do so. I turn to lust as a means of comfort or entertainment, but I'm trying to turn to the word instead.
                "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus."

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                • #9
                  Re: Porn Addiction

                  Originally posted by Arabesque View Post
                  There were special half-day seminar events at my church a while ago called "Pancakes and Porn" for men and teenage boys to thoughtfully discuss porn from a Christian perspective and how to overcome porn addiction. I obviously never attended it, but I remember the posters. I know the church that hosts the events was established with sensitivity for those who work in the porn industry and feel too ashamed to go to church but have a desire to, and those who have porn addictions they are too ashamed to seek help in overcoming. Maybe their website will have helpful information for you - http://www.xxxchurch.com

                  The only practical advice I can think of is that you cultivate other hobbies and interests to fill up your time and divert your attention when you're feeling bored, upset, or promiscuous.

                  Good luck!
                  Yes I do try to absorb myself in other more wholesome activities. Sometimes I suceed sometimes I fail, but I won't' stop trying. Thank you for the link as well.
                  "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus."

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                  • #10
                    Re: Porn Addiction

                    Yes it is a massive problem throughout the Christian community, and the world. But despite its immensity it is not insurmountable, and I do sincerely desire to conquer the great mountain that is lust and escape the shadow of anguish which it casts. Only through dwelling in the holy spirit can I do this. I will continue to pray and try to meditate on the word when the devil comes with his temptations.
                    "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus."

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                    • #11
                      Re: Porn Addiction

                      I tend to find that I can resist lust in the day, ignore it. But when I see a pretty woman or watch something of a sexual nature (a scene in a film for instance) then a seed is planted. In the night, when I'm lying waiting to fall asleep, from the seed grows a great plant which ensnares me, and I give in. I always feel hollow and emotionless after the act, and sometimes the emptiness is followed by great anguish which almost brings me to tears. Its a destructive cycle, but by reading and studying the bible more I believe I might be able to escape it.
                      "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus."

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                      • #12
                        Re: Porn Addiction

                        I have never found a place where I can openly share my thoughts on this problem, and I won't share them here except to say that I don't treat sexual sin much differently than any other sin, whether it be my desire to reward myself with food (thankfully I'm still "little"), my desire for a relationship with a beautiful girl, my insatiable desire for social interaction at parties or Facebook, etc.

                        Years ago at a Christian retreat for college-age men, the leader said how he thought it was unfair that men are saddled with this huge burden of sexual sin, whereas the young women get off pretty easy. That didn't sound right to me. Perhaps men's struggles are more obvious and villified, but women are just as self-indulgent and disobedient. The true nature of lust goes beyond sexual desire; it is a focus on the needs of the flesh. The only soultion is to fill your mind instead with the things of the Spirit.

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                        • #13
                          Re: Porn Addiction

                          I know what you are going through, as I have gone through the same thing. It is addicting I know. You just have to say no. It is wrong for them to be doing what they are doing, which also makes it wrong for us to watch it. We just have to remember that, and say no. Resist temptation, and it will flee from thee. The more you tell yourself it is wrong and just don't do it, the more it will stick and you won't do it. Sometimes you may fall short, but don't use that phrase to justify doing it again because you couldn't help it. Do your best, and pray for strength. I heard something once that applies to everything we do: Pray as if no work could help, and then work as if no prayer could help. You have to do your share and meet God half way. He will do his part, and you have to do yours. Get an accountability partner, ie, parents, wife, pastor, siblings etc. One thing to do is install Covenant Eyes on all your devices that have internet connection, and have an accountability partner who can see what you do. There are a few accountability programs like that out there. It can be hard. Pray for forgiveness if you fall short, and then do better. It is not good to sin more to receive more mercy, may it never be. Jesus has said many times when he heals somebody, "your sins are forgiven, go your way and sin no more." I believe that sickness and disease come from sinning. Hope this helps. I too struggle with it, but I believe that I have overcome it. I am doing my best, and when I say no and tell myself how wrong it is, I don't do it. I don't think I will ever do it again. I will be praying for you, please pray for me too. God be with you.

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                          • #14
                            Re: Porn Addiction

                            Yes little watchman, both men and women struggle with sexual sin. People assume only men are burdened by it, but despite men and women having vast differences, we also have many similarities. The sins we commit are the same.
                            Focusing on the flesh is destructive, so I will try and walk in the spirit. Thankyou.
                            "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus."

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                            • #15
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                              Travelingfurhunter, its nice to have advice from someone who has struggled with the same thing. Watching pornography is wrong, and grows wronger and wronger as you indulge in it. You descend into depravity and tabboos become norms because lust has warped your perspective. I also believe that sickness stems from sin. When I abstain from masturbation and pornography, I feel healthier and my mind feels clearer. I thank you for your prayers, and I will pray for you. Thank you.
                              "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus."

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